What is this?
Welcome to my personal blog, a space to embrace and celebrate the joyous state of being your own person. Single by choice or by circumstance, or just looking for some more individuality, this is where I’ll collect blissful alone moments and things that are equally good, if not better, done alone. Not exclusively, but in particular if you’ve been asked one too many times “why are you still single”, or given a weird look when dining alone, or haven’t ever dined alone because it seems scary –join my quiet and solitary emporium. My singular kingdom. Singledom. 

Why me?
Having reached a certain age, I realized coupledom is not for me and that’s *gasp* perfectly okay. My life is not perfect, but rather perfectly ordinary, so please don’t expect beautifully a curated feed. I am, however, someone who struggled to find a path and took longer than needed to be just okay, because the only life stories I was shown on my way to today were happy couples in meringue wedding dresses or frazzled spinsters crying into melting ice cream. In reality, singular lives can be full and satisfying and an actual choice. Not a punishment, not a fault, not purgatory and not always a transition. I encourage you to read my Singledom Manifesto if this sounds relevant.

Getting here took serious work, a lot of learning and a significant amount of reparenting myself. I wish we didn’t have to struggle so much, constantly justify ourselves, DIY the solutions to feel accepted, and spend all that time wondering why sometimes it seems like I’m the only single person in the world (according to popular culture, tour operators, some hotels and restaurants, people who decide pack sizes of grocery items). I’m still learning how to navigate the world designed for extroverts traveling in couples, and I’m not always an expert on how deal, but at least I know the path more or less. Now, because I already did the work, I’m here to share it with you. If I can make the process a tiny but easier for even one more person, make someone feel like they are not alone on board of the sometimes-wobbly singledom train, its worth will become exponential. Maybe it is the voice someone notices accidentally. Maybe my unremarkable story is the one to convince you.

Introvert, feminist, and LGBTQ+ love will be featured and haters not tolerated.